Motives

If you‘re reading this, it’s important that you know why I created this site in the first place.

I started this site because I want to stand in my authenticity. For that, these are my core beliefs for how I approach this site:

Posting what I want without the pressure of trying to be perfect. Like many creatives, perfectionism used to rule all of my creative decisions. When I cared about being perfect, I was extrinsically-motivated because I was trying to follow some unbeatable standard. Now I’ve learned to be okay with the fact that I’ll never be perfect since perfection doesn’t even exist.

Sharing only when it genuinely feels good to post. The whole concept around pumping out a shit load of content everyday for the sake of beating the algorithm makes me want to vomit. After spending years on the content creation treadmill in effort to be seen, I refuse to work against my creative cycles like that. At the end of the day, I want the stuff I share to be something I’m genuinely proud of even if that means I post less.

To be honest and show up authentically with where I’m at right now. I used to put so much pressure on myself for thinking that I needed to have all of my shit figured out, and honestly I don’t. Now I only create based on where I’m at in my life. I don’t force myself to be someone or do something out of social or financial pressure anymore. I’m just here to be myself.

I share my stuff without any expectations or external reward. I’ve found that the quality of my content and the value I provide is so much more authentic and genuine when I remove the need to be compensated in some way. I don’t create the content on this site for money. I’ve never really cared about the external validation anyway.

This site is ONLY for my self-expression. Here’s what this site is NOT for:

This site is NOT for your approval. Sorry to disappoint, but I didn’t make this site for you. This whole site is dedicated solely for my own self-interest and nothing else. I treat this site like a personal diary and I use it as a space for me to express my deepest truths and what resonates with me, even if you do not approve of it. If you ever get triggered by something I say, remember you have the choice to leave and do something else more productive with your life. I suggest you put your energy towards something that brings you as much inner peace as this website brings me personally.

This site is NOT for attention. I genuinely don’t care about the number of my following, nor could I care less about whether people see this website or not. I don’t care about posting my daily life on social which is why I’m not actively on it. I have no intention to share any of my stuff that’s on this site on social media or anywhere that’s not my own territory. But if you like it so much you want to share it, all I ask is for you to only share the link. But then again, I don’t really care.

This site is NOT for affiliations or marketing purposes. I don’t believe my value as a human being and sense of self-worth should be measured by what ‘big name’ brands or influencers say about me. I also don’t affiliate myself to any person, group or media outlet. I don’t believe in using news publications I’ve been labelled ‘as seen in’ as a way to bend how people perceive me for the sake of marketing. I believe people have the ability to discern for themselves their understanding of me, instead of them needing to rely on what the twisted media says.

This site is NOT for promoting others. I don’t promote other people’s stuff, so don’t come asking me to share your thing. I have strong boundaries in place where I take my inbox seriously so that it doesn’t become a flooded pitch fest. I appreciate you for honoring that.

This site is NOT meant to be useful. I share things because I’m intrinsically-motivated for my own introspection and self-expression. Everything I put out is for my own evolution and personal sense of purpose whether or not it’s useful to you. If you’re here with the intention to look for how I can be useful to you, this site probably isn’t the best use of your time. I do have other places where I’m in service to others. But as far as this site goes, I ain’t nobody’s tool.

Many people are looking for the next guru to follow. That’s not me, and this is why you shouldn’t listen to me:

I don’t have everything figured out, and I probably never will. It’s probably best that you don’t take what I say super literally or label my ideas as absolutes, because there’s still a lot I don’t have figured out. As long as I am human, I know nothing Jon Snow.

I have truths of my own, and they are constantly evolving as I go inward. You should go inward as well and figure out your truths as mine are probably not the same as yours.

I’m not an authority, so you shouldn’t prioritize my opinion over your own. The only thing I have authority in is my own life experience, but otherwise I have nothing that qualifies me to have a say in what I think you should do.

I don’t know what’s best for your life, only you do. The best way to grow is by listening to your gut, and not relying on what other people think, say or do. I will never know what’s best for anyone or anything other than me.

I share what I think and feels true for me, I don’t tell people how to think and feel. I want to empower people to find their own answers, instead of trying to have all the answers for people. If anyone comes to ask me what I think, I only share what I think is true for myself.

I have my own ideas and philosophies about life, but I also know I could be wrong about everything. You should prioritize your own ability to think critically and discern what’s true for yourself because the practice of critical thinking is going extinct, and that’s scary.