FEARING WHAT COULD BE REVEALS WHAT YOU CANNOT HANDLE

When you feel distressed about your potential responsibility for a negative outcome that could happen, it’s because you subconsciously already know you won’t handle it well if it does happen. The possible negative outcome that you fear so much isn’t the thing that will ruin your life. It’s your inability to handle the aftermath of that negative outcome. So if you want free yourself from the burden of what could be, come clean by deciding how you will respond if the worst does happen.

Your education won’t end if you fail. It will end if you convince yourself you can’t get better after you fail.

Your life won’t end if you lose a game. It will end if you convince yourself to stop playing the game.

Your career won’t end if you make a mistake. It will end if you convince yourself you can’t overcome your mistakes.

If you know yourself well enough that you will respond to that negative situation productively even if the worst does happen, that’s how you know you’re free. We don’t distress over things that we know we have the maturity to handle.